"I Feel Pretty" - We have all heard this song and right now you need to take a minute and ask yourself, "Do I feel pretty?" If your answer is NO! then here is your first assignment: When you join FlyLady, the first thing we ask you to do each day is get up and get dressed to shoes and fix your hair and face so you can greet the day ready to confront anything or anyone! Are you doing this? If not, why are you refusing this one simple request?
I can hear you now, "I don't feel this is necessary, because I am not going to see anyone today but my babies." This kind of thinking is just another excuse. All I want is for you to smile when you see yourself in the mirror. Can you do that with chicken hair sticking up all over your head? You may be able to belly-laugh, but can you look in the mirror and feel good about what you see? Do you feel pretty? Do you need eye laser treatment or cataract surgery to clear away those clouds in your eyes that distort the your view of yourself?
Feeling pretty is more about your attitude than your face. Sometimes our attitudes need a little help. I know many of you think that getting dressed is not important for keeping your home in order and getting rid of Body Clutter, but I want you to do this for me at first if you can't bring yourself to do it just for you. My Granny always said, "Pretty is as pretty does!" As a child I had interpreted that to mean if you act right you will be considered pretty. Now that I am grown up and I have finally started to love myself, I can see a whole new beautiful meaning to this unwritten law: If you don't treat yourself with respect and love, you will not feel pretty. Getting up and taking care of you is the most important job of your whole day. Lying around in your jammies all day does not make you feel pretty. So in order to feel pretty you have to do something about your appearance. Your fairy godmother is not going to wave a magic wand over you and turn you into a princess. Bibbity, Bobbity, Boo!
We have all had those mornings when we didn't feel it was necessary to get prettied up. Now that I have been doing my Morning Routine for several years, it is next to impossible for me not to get dressed to shoes. Even when I am sick, I always get dressed to shoes.
Now I want to talk about what clothes we put on. Do your clothes make you feel ugly? Are they too tight because you have gained a few extra pounds? Are you holding on to your skinny clothes in hope that you will lose the weight one day? In the meantime you are beating yourself up over the fact that you can't wear that one outfit that made you feel like a million bucks. That outfit yells at you each time you open your closet door. Get rid of loud, ill-tempered clothing! Don't keep anything in your home that makes you have bad feelings. This has got to stop! It doesn't matter for now if you have only one everyday outfit that you feel pretty in.
I don't want you wearing clothes that are too big, either! Frumpy sweats have a way of telling our head that it is okay to eat that extra cookie, because no one will notice anyway. Before you know it, you will be filling out those baggy sweatpants. Any of us can look pretty and feel cute in a pair of jeans and a shirt. It is all a state of mind and having clothes that fit you properly. When you love yourself enough to wear only things that make you feel good about yourself, then you will not torture your body with clothes that are too tight or too baggy.
The idea of feeling pretty also has to do with your underclothes, favorite pieces of jewelry, a special color of lipstick, or even a sweet-smelling bath bar. It all comes down to your attitude. Love yourself by just being nice to you. "Pretty is as pretty does."